Online Dating is it a Good Idea? Part 2

My quest to find true love took me on a digital journey of online dating sites. After weeks of looking at endless pictures and profiles, I was even more confused about the male species.

Here’s an example, I saw a cutie who called himself “screwyalniter“–now what could that name possibly imply? Yet, his profile states that he spoke three languages, he’s looking for a long-term relationship, he likes books and movies and his idea of a romantic first date is dinner and a long walk. If indeed he was this smart and sensitive, then why did he choose a name that made him sound like drill bit? Then there was “Coolonick” (now say that name out loud). That’s right–enema anyone? Thisguy is into health food, subscribes to “Food and Wine” and is a structural engineer. While reading his profile I kept on thinking that I needed more fiber in my diet. Now, meet “Just a guy 4 U.” The name sounds normal enough, but in reading his profile he admits to being an Alpha male who likes to “experiment” with cuffs, leather, chains, whips and duckies. Β Which type of duckies, I thought, the plastic kind or the ones served in restaurants? He wasn’t the guy for me.

The pattern in these men and others like them is that their chosen nickname did not fit their profile. This incongruity got me thinking about the persona men liked to project and who they are. My rumination turned into confusion. How much did a profile really say about a man anyway considering it’s easy to lie online? What does a funky sounding name really mean? Perhaps those guys were just trying to be funny. But I had to rely on something to filter out the riff raffs from the serious contenders. Before making initial contact I had to evaluate their profiles and read between the lines of what they wrote. Then I thought who cares. I don’t know them; they don’t know me; anything is possible. So I took the fisherman’s approach and tried to contact those that interested me regardless of their online handle. Who knows maybe I’ll make a friend or two. Β Stay tuned for Part 3.

Online Dating: Is it a Good Idea? Part 1

Online Dating Part 3

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25 Responses to Online Dating is it a Good Idea? Part 2

  1. I am really anxious to hear about what happened after contact! I’ve been on the online dating websites (mostly for fun, partly because I was thinking about writing about it for the newspaper), and I tell you it’s a bust. I found myself angry every time I received a message with uncapitalized words and other things that annoying a grammar-loving English major. People forget that first impressions are hard to break, and that profile, that handle, is the first thing people know about you online. Wouldn’t you want to put your best foot forward?

    Of course, my favorite messages come from married men looking to spice up their sex lives with their wives. Those are always amusing.

    • Lafemmeroar says:

      I’ll probably post the 3rd part tomorrow. The second part ran long so I had to cut it into two parts. lol marrieds looking for 3somes … they need a swingers site not a dating site πŸ™‚

      • effeuiller says:

        Haha, I bet these actually exist…after all, why not? There are sites out there for married people looking to have affairs.

        • Lafemmeroar says:

          Oh yeah, did you read Part 1? Dating sites have their purpose (people can meet their future spouses there), but I have to admit that it also makes it easy for cheaters.

  2. k8edid says:

    Wanna bet screwyalniter’s three languages are “Narcissist”, “Swine” and “Pervert”?

  3. Jorge says:

    hehehe… That was a good one, but sure it happens with women also. I once went to a site, and there was this beautiful girl, from Ukraine, I think, saying she was a white orchid or something.

  4. Shonnie says:

    Gosh, I’m glad I am married. I don’t know if I could do the whole online dating thing. I wouldn’t catch most of the spelling and grammar errors, so I don’t think that would be a problem — BUT — I don’t think I could get past those names.

    I know people who have met and married people online. I think I am just to skeptical and tactile. I gotta get my hands on the goods … just sayin’.

    Please … do share the results. πŸ˜‰

    • Lafemmeroar says:

      Be glad you’re not out there. I’m not sure how far I’ll go. I did this as a means to research, but I’m fascinated with the online dating community. I never thought I’d do it to this extent, but I guess never say never. One of my high school friends met her husband online and that was 16 years ago. They’re still together.

  5. hollyjb says:

    My sister met her first/current boyfriend online. She opened an account on a dating site in September and they met in January, right after I left so I haven’t even met him yet! And Skype doesn’t really count, especially when all your Aunts, Uncles, and cousins are there too. He seems like a nice enough guy, my sister’s really happy, and my Mom likes him. *shrug* I think online dating might be my only option because I don’t like going to clubs or bars. Did I already comment about that on the 1st part of this series??? Plus, all (most) of my friends are girls….and about 1/4 of my guy friends are gay. Or at least my guy acquaintances, lol.

  6. magsx2 says:

    I don’t know if I would be game to do anything like that, the names alone would definitely turn me off, I have never actually been to a dating site, but it sounds like a mind field, I am also glad that I am married.

    • Lafemmeroar says:

      The sites can be a bit overwhelming. Too many pictures, profiles to choose from and the pickings are slim. I’m not criticizing the men. It’s my issue I guess. But it boggles my mind why they just can’t use regular names even if it’s not theirs.

  7. Online dating is both amazing and ridiculous. I have met many people online -both dates and platonic friends- and I consider myself lucky.

    One could write endlessly about the sociology of this phenomenon -the stupid names and come on lines as well as how people portray themselves in a profile. I think you captured the inanity of some in a very amusing and sardonic way, that is, exactly how it should be taken, imo. I’ve noticed a lot of guys with the word ‘taco’ in their username. I don’t get that at all.

    I will be returning to read your musings!

    • Lafemmeroar says:

      I like your take on the whole online dating thing and I’m glad to see that you’re not jaded by it. As you said it is amazing and ridiculous. At this point I’d like more of the amazing and keep the ridiculous on the side. I’m going to look int that whole “taco” thing.

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  9. ericmvogt says:

    Hmm. can’t wait to see Part III. But Part II has me looking for a “handle” that is better than those schlongs you mentioned. I must ponder this and search for a name of higher meaning. I believe that the nickname “youngrasshopper” is already taken. This is going to be a Zenful challenge! πŸ˜‰

  10. Bodhirose says:

    Take the hint, Laf, run! I personally would pay close attention to their online handles…they speak volumes. On your part 1, I left a comment about my sister finding glaring personality quirks of her online matches…this is one that is being shown to you and you don’t even have to meet them to see that they are…freaks! (I’m going to have to ask her about online handles and see what she thinks).

    I would love to hear your stories of actual meetings… Maybe those are coming up in part 3.

    Gayle ~

    • Lafemmeroar says:

      This was a four parter with part 3 having 3 parts … it was posted a while ago and thought that some readers might have missed it! I think I had more fun in the chatrooms … but they sure didn’t like me though! I’ve had some disastrous blind dates in the past πŸ™‚ I’m so glad to see you hopping around my site Gayle … I’ve missed ya πŸ™‚

  11. Bodhirose says:

    I missed the posting before, Laf and enjoyed reading it but forgot that it was from some time ago…oh, well. Have missed you too. I had come by some time ago but didn’t find any new postings…so glad I found some today. I’m trying to get back into blogging again after taking another break for a move. Now I’m settled and hope to be a regular poster again. Nice to be here, Laf!

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